WHY STAY A VIRGIN?

"Are you still a virgin?" The very question might make you cower! Afterall, in many places a youth who is a virgin is likely to be viewed as a curiousity, an oddball. No wonder so many young people have sex before they're out of their teens!

PULLED BY DESIRE, PUSHED BY PEERS
Even as a christian, you find it hard to control your sexual urges. "Attimes, thoughts about sex enter my mind without any apparent cause or reason," admits a young man named Jose. Be assured that to a large extent, such feelings are normal.
However, being the victim of unrelenting teasing and harassment for being a virgin is no fun at all! For instance, what if your peers tells you that you're not a real man or woman unless you've had sex? Your peers make sex seem exciting and normal,"says Ella. "If you,re sleeping around, you're classed as weird."
But there's a side to premarital sex that your peers may not talk about. For example, Kay, who had sex with her boyfriend, recalls; "Afterwards i felt embarassed and ashamed. I hated myself and i hated my boyfriend." Such experiences are more typical than most youths realize. In reality, premarital sex is often an emotional painful experience with devastating consequences!
However, a youth named Caro asks, "why would God give young people sexual desires, knowing that they should not use them until after marriage?" Thats a good question. BUT consider the following..

ARE SEXUAL URGES THE ONLY STRONG FEELINGS YOU EXPERIENCE?
Not at all. Jehovah God created you with the capacity to feel a wide range of desires and emotions. Do you have to act on each impulse the instant that it wells up inside you? No, for God also made you with the ability to control your actions.
What's the lesson, then? You may not be able to keep certain desires from arising, but you can control your reaction to them. Really, to act upon every sexual urge would be as wrong and foolish as hitting someone each time you felt anger.
The fact is, God never intended for us to misuse our procreative powers. "Each one of you should know how to get possesion of his own vessel in sanctification and honor, "says the Bible. Just as there is a "time to love and a time to hate," there is also a time to act on sexual urges and a time to refrain from doing so. Ultimately you are in control of your desires!
Not at all. Jehovah God created you with the capacity to feel a wide range of desires and emotions. Do you have to act on each impulse the instant that it wells up inside you? No, for God also made you with the ability to control your actions.
What's the lesson, then? You may not be able to keep certain desires from arising, but you can control your reaction to them. Really, to act upon every sexual urge would be as wrong and foolish as hitting someone each time you felt anger.
The fact is, God never intended for us to misuse our procreative powers. "Each one of you should know how to get possesion of his own vessel in sanctification and honor, "says the Bible. Just as there is a "time to love and a time to hate," there is also a time to act on sexual urges and a time to refrain from doing so. Ultimately you are in control of your desires!

3 THINGS LONG DISTANCE LOVE TAUGHT ME ABOUT MEN!

It was more than two years ago on a dreadful Sunday morning in an overcrowded Mexican airport that I said goodbye to my boyfriend. It turned out that goodbye was just the beginning of several more heart wrenching goodbyes over a period of more than two years. We had flown to Mexico for his brother's wedding, and after an entire night (yes Mexican weddings really do last the entire night) of dancing & drinking, we made the somber drive to the airport to part ways. I was headed back to the states, and he was headed to an island far, far away.

We eventually settled into a routine which consisted of nightly phone calls and daily emails. We tried to see each other every few months and eventually the time passed. Now we are finally going to be by each other and will soon be planning our wedding. However, when I look back on all the tears, the arguments, and the painful goodbyes, I realize that being in a long distance relationship has taught me not only a lot about my boyfriend but about the male perspective in general. Here's what I've learned:

1) Men are sensitive

We all know that men show emotion differently than women. However, this should not be confused with thinking that men don't feel the same emotions we do; they just display their feelings differently. In my relationship, for example, it's usually my boyfriend who ends our phone calls, and well being a girl, I could talk for hours upon hours on the phone. My boyfriend will usually say something to the effect of "ok honey I need to get going." To this I usually respond by saying, "no, 2 more minutes." Well funny thing is that when I decided to stop trying to keep him on the phone, he actually felt sad. He kept saying "ok I'm really gonna get going" and I proudly kept saying "ok I'll let you go then."

After repeating this cycle for a couple minutes, I realized that my boyfriend was waiting for me to say "no, 2 more minutes." See, my boyfriend likes knowing that I need him and miss him; he just doesn't say it directly.

2) Men think you're beautiful even when you don't agree

Couples separated by a long distance relationship often use a webcam in order to stay in touch. When my boyfriend and I decided to give the webcam a try, I would actually spend a lot of time doing my hair and makeup as though I were going on a real date. With time, I began to realize that even when we chatted first thing in the morning when my hair was scary and my eyes were puffy, my boyfriend still couldn't stop telling me how beautiful he thinks I am.

Of course your man wants you to take care of yourself, and he certainly appreciates your effort. The point, however, is that he loves you and thinks you're beautiful no matter what even when you first wake up.

3) Men care a lot about your opinion

Your man would probably never admit how much your opinion affects him, but I can guarantee you that it does. You're likely the person that he feels closet to so it only stands to reason that your opinion is extremely important to him. If my boyfriend, for example, says something that makes me laugh, then he will repeat it on other occasions just to hear my laughter again. He feels powerful when he can make you laugh, and he wants to know that he has that affect on you.

Your boyfriend is probably not going to parade into the living room asking "does this shirt make me look fat," but I guarantee he feels good when you compliment him.

In conclusion, these are the top 3 things I've learned about men from being in a long distance relationship. I hope they help you to understand the male perspective a bit more. Just don't let my boyfriend know that I am on to his secrets!

WHAT IT TAKES TO MAKE A MAN FALL IN LOVE

What does it take to make a guy fall in love so hopelessly that he'll stay with you forever? How do women build strong and lasting relationships? What do you have to do to make sure your man will never leave you? One of the biggest fears all women face is that the relationship they've invested time and effort into won't last. As a result, many women want to know what it takes to make a guy fall in love and that's why we're here to help.

One of the biggest problems with men is that they often confuse ideas of love and lust. Sometimes the physical attraction they feel towards a woman is so powerful that they have a hard time believing it's anything less than love. Of course, once they get what they really want and the charm wears off, the fact that they weren't ever in love becomes quickly clear, but it doesn't stop them from doing the same thing all over again.

Wouldn't it be so much easier if love and lust were the same thing? You wouldn't really need much more than that first spark to ensure a happy and loving life. You could have the man of your dreams just by virtue of your attractiveness or your flirting ability. Unfortunately, the reality of love isn't quite that easy. But you're not without the power to turn that immediate physical energy into the more pure energy of love.

One of the primary reasons men fall in love is that they find themselves with a girl who opens up their understanding of themselves. Men have a hard time realizing they're in love because they're not very well connected to their emotions. It's when a girl comes along who helps a man realize exactly what he is feeling, who opens his mind to his emotional side, that he ends up falling truly head over heels.

If you want to take your relationship to the next level and make your guy sincerely fall in love with you, you need to connect with him emotionally. In order to ensure that he'll never leave you, you need to learn how to be his friend. You need to learn to not only accept his flaws, but love him for that. In order to make a guy fall in love with you, you need to connect with him on the deepest and most understanding level as possible, and once you do, you can be sure that he'll love you forever.